SEX EDUCATION

Probably the biggest cause of teenage pregnancy is ignorance on the part of both boys and girls. Males don't like wearing condoms for many reasons, from not feeling real, stopping the natural flow of passion, slipping due to small amounts of secretion to the fact that putting on condoms can even cause a reduction in erection and ability to penetrate. Some boys brag that 'they' never wear them, and their mates become just as contemptible and do remove them during the sex without the girls knowledge, especially if they think the girl is a virgin and they are unlikely to catch anything. Some probably don't care if they are the one's passing on a disease. Girls on the other hand have a few too many drinks and put blind faith in the guy's ability to have safe sex.

The first golden rule of initiation in full sex for males and females is not to have any alcohol or drugs at all. Being fully conscious, aware and able to recall everything is so important.

The second golden rule is to have sex for the first time with someone who is not a virgin, that applies to both boys and girls. The blind leading the blind usually ends up with unwanted side effects, bad experiences, fear, suffering in quiet desperation, pregnancy, diseases left undetected, dissatisfied conclusions and embarrassing regrets.

Girls should be totally conversant with their menstrual cycle, eg. the times of fertility, moods caused by the hormonal changes, mucus; the different types and their significance. Also have full knowledge of all forms of contraception, clinics nearby for advice, condoms and treatment. They should be able to have adult conversations with one or more members of their imediate family and know they can go to them for understanding care and loving support. They should be experienced in their genitalia with visual study of every part of their anatomy and be well content with masturbation both clitoral and internally ( mothers - buy your teenage daughters small dildos for Christmas ). They should have experienced many orgasms in masturbation with a 'loving oneself' attitude during these sessions, to the point of being at ease in sex, free of shame and fully conversant with their peers before embarking on sexual relations with another person.

Once they feel happy with their own personal sexuality and know they are not going to get adverse criticism from their friends and family, they will be ready to find their first partner in sex. Not necessarily a relationship, but the emphasis should be on someone she fancies physically who is a bit experienced, understanding and willing to do exactly what she says and is practically her slave. She should have him lay down on a nice place and be still maybe with a thin scarf over his face in low lighting if she wants. Even tie him up if he is unable to remain objective. ( A good example of Bondage in a healing role. ]

She should slowly explore his body and work at her own pace to getting him aroused, getting familiar with his penis, putting on a condom properly and mounting him slowly after sitting on his chest and stomach first to relax. She should not rush but slide, glide, almost dance and gradually take hold of his erect penis and guide it in as and when she is ready. This has three main 'powers' for her to absorb. She is gaining her courage, she is being safe and she will be in control of the penetration in the easiest & least-painful position, in fact if she has masturbated freely in the past it will not hurt at all but be totally pleasureable. She will do the movement as she feels is right for her and she will more than likely enjoy the experience, even having an orgasm. He should do his utmost to stay still, erect but not become excited or ejaculate until she has or tells him to. preferable he should psyche himself up to not having an orgasm himself at this point but to be there at her bidding totally. The result of this for a girl is to begin her sex life with authority and equality, not as a dominatrix but neither subjugated nor taken. I always feel that first sex for girls spreading their legs and being climbed on, prodded and pounded is a bit like rape. I do know that with experienced people both these positions have their excitement for girls but the 'First Time' should be giving a sense of attainment and not feel oppressive in the slightest.

I would recommend that any woman already sexually active, who has not experienced this kind of assertive, 'in your own power' sexual state of mind or still suffers from an oppressive 'first time' trauma; arrange this scenario as a re-initiation ceremony. Renew your 'First Time' and begin a new sexual liberation. This position is known as the 'Kali position' and has over time achieved a notoriety for the man-eater, collector of skulls, whoredom and other fearful images. Personally I believe that the Goddess Kali represents the wild-woman and exists in all women. It needs to be aknowledged, expressed and loved not feared, by both Women and Men. Women will need to express this part of her make-up every now and then and Men should be prepared, honoured and gratefully accepting of this wonderful mysterious part of a woman's beauty.

For boys an equal liberating emerging self-esteem is equally desirably.
How to attain this is difficult for me to say objectively. I would appreciate feedback from sensitive women and experienced girls in this area as it is vital that a female simpathetic approach is fundamental to stimulate a positive initiation in young men. As an older experienced man I can only give my impressions of my first experience, which was with an older experienced woman with an attitude similar to that recomended for young women above.

I was made to feel relaxed, unhurried with a fun and humerous person who did not give any lessons or advice but allowed me to experience my innate masculinity to arise, by her lying back not talking but cooing gently, encouraging by lightly touching and holding my back in almost a light nurturing embrace without any demands, commands or verbal interruption at all. Instinctively, men do know what to do with the basics of reproduction and should be allowed to do that initially, even if it only lasts a few minutes. Some boys will ejaculate immediately upon penetration. This is either due to anticipation, prolonged foreplay or sensitivity in the penis if they have not had enough of masturbating experience. It may also be the innate driving force of the male needing to fertilize the female before another male comes along to perpetuate the gene line. This is a strong sub-conscious force within the male species and leads to some very strange behaviour. ( Especially when drunk ) See below in MALE & FEMALE INSTINCTIVE BEHAVIOUR
I might add that women have an equally strong innate driving force of seeking out the strongest gene to produce the surviving offspring.





MALE & FEMALE INSTINCTIVE BEHAVIOUR Women have a strong innate driving force of seeking out the strongest gene to produce the surviving offspring. This usually takes the form in behaviour of; the more males that impregnate her the strongest gene will swim to the front and procreate the best survivor. In the animal kingdom our closest relative the chimpanzees do just this. When the female is in season she will choose the strongest male usually the Alpha male, who has already proven his prowess, she will offer herself to him and when he obliges, quickly and turns back to his food search, she moves to all the other males to ensure that she is fertilised, taking care not to rub it in the alpha males face by being subtle about it. Evolution has passed on an innate instinct for all women to be sub-consciously polygamous.