What are my qualifications for teaching Tantric Sex?



After many years of disconcerting, unfulfilled sexual relationships and deep emotional dependencies, I took a 'celebate' time out to read vast quantities of books on sexual practices and philosophy. This led on to subjects such as the Kama Sutra and heavy tomes of Buddhist teachings. It became evident to me that some sort of spiritual connection to the 'bliss state' that I sought was needed. So many little events have all come together like a jigsaw to paint a picture of a lifestyle of discovery into the realms of Rites of Passage.This is now long forgotten in the west since the corruption of Christ's teachings which in my opinion began not long after his Crucifiction. This manipulation of the people became more intense causing increase in war, death and oppression all in his name, 'in vain' I might add. Enough said on Evangelism and Fundamentalism with regard to western culture, these are in decline because as we are now becoming emancipated from priests and state officials dictating our moral character, with threats of damnation or promises of Paradise, we have also had to accept the need for self-discipline and the cessation of denial or ignorance as an excuse for not working on our own weaknesses and growing up.

I decided to grow up, out, inward and expand my consciousness without sanctimony and for the benefit of all sentient beings ( living things ) as best I can. I am still engaged in this and will be beyond my death in this lifetime. I have taken my Buddhist " Bodhisattva" vows twice with Tibetan Lamas. Vows of service to all sentient beings in the full spirit of Compassion. I have taken refuge with a lama of the Nyimga and Kagyu schools of Tibetan Buddhism, I have total respect and honour for the Laws of Kama that are intrinsic in the Buddhist lifestyle and the consequences of my actions both on others and my own Karmic path. My vows are to the Dharma, Karma and Sangha: ( the teachings, my merits and the brotherhood of compassion.)




12. Who empowered me?


I have been very fortunate to receive empowerments from many Lamas including the Dalai Lama, covering the
Chen Resig Buddha for compassion,
Green Tara for protection,
Medicine Buddha for healing,
The Northern Tertons of Padmasambhava,
  from the Dakinis Secret Store,
My Bodhisattva vows as many times as I can,


I am a practising Buddhist.

I have taken Refuge with a Tibetan Lama, who shall remain nameless at this time.
Neither he nor his lineage are associated in any way with the contents of this website.
I might further add that I do not attempt to portray any of these teachings
as being mainstream Buddhist teachings
but merely the ramblings of a western person who has derived knowledge from many sources
and is not totally absorbed in any single school of thought or religion.
No disciple association with anyone else should be assumed by you.

I STAND ALONE IN THESE CONJECTURES, EXPERIENCES AND RECOMENDATIONS.
YOU ARE ALSO FREE TO FORM YOUR OWN OPINIONS OF WHAT I SAY,
AND EXPRESS THEM HERE BY email

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OR IGNORE THEM ALTOGETHER.

Peace and Blessings on you.

My Tibetan name Pema Dorje
Pema means Lotus, Dorje means Thunderbolt and Vajra ( penis )
Read into that what you will !









13. What is my experience?


I have helped many women and men with their sexual problems and have an innate ability to help them to discover the source of any particular armouring that may be blocking their own flow with sexual arousal or progression within an intimate experience. Get them to face this source in a safe confidential relaxed state, understand and acknowledge where it originates, it's consequence and how it developed. This is then replaced with a new outlook based on Buddhist principles to manifest a clearer and more sublime resolution to any event that may have triggered such a negative effect in one's life path. Raising personal awareness, compassion, understanding and self esteem, to develope a confident, centered and empowered individual, will dissipate the " victim " state and release the " warrior " state. Refreshingly enthused with Honour and integrity; able to face all adversity, and finding hidden blessings in all that happens to us in a universe that we create for ourselves, you will be suitably " dressed " to astound your friends, the world and yourself, in your new found powers of creativity. We only have to ask why and be prepared to listen to our own answers and of any spiritual guidance that we are really tuned into.


After reading so many books on philosophy, art, religion, new age, three books spring to mind as being a great consolidating factor in my newly adopted lifestyle. The first would be

A translation of the Bhagavad-Gita chapters 1 - 5.

by the Majarishi Mahesh Yogi.

I had to read this book seven times before I understood it's deep principles of honour and integrity, written hundreds of years ago with the precision of a fine artist. It appears that there is not one additional unnecessary word, nor is there one vital word missing.
This book answers the age-old questions of "Who am I?", "Why I am I here?" And "Where am I going?".
The other book having great influence on me is

"Thoughts without a Thinker"

by Mark Epstein.

This is Psychotherapy from a Buddhist Perspective and consolidates many of the hundreds of books I have read. I must pay tribute to the author, an American for his precise and beautiful use of the English language. We British do find it difficult to read some American literature that is long winded and seemingly blazé. Some people think that they get better value for money if the book is twice as big.
Speaking of which, the forerunner in a long line of books on tantric sex is

The Art of Sexual Ecstasy

by Margo Anand.

10,000 Blessings on this ground-breaking practitioner of Tantric sex to the West. I did find that the excessive ceremony, preparation and detail a little tedious and would most likely cause DROOP in most men. It takes away the spontaneity, surprise and flow when things get too clinical.
It is however fantastic reading and the chapters on MASTURBATION ( self-pleasuring ) are GREAT. Lastly I must mention a beautiful book in this long line covering sex and positions etc.

Loving Sex
by Nitya Lacroix
Soooo Sweet, Erotic, inspiring, incredible photography, beautiful models and the perfect example of non-pornographic, sexually explicit, mutual honouring of the human body. Bravo!
This is how I envisage most of my sculpture being like, only with a little more, " Take my breath away " in it.

Besides these intellectual books I found it important to read fiction, poetry and ancient stories. I've also indulged in seeing countless films in all genres, even studying the progress of overcoming censorship within all this media coverage. The new technological advances and the Internet availability has been like a tidal wave of information and liberation to the inquiring mind. It was inevitable that people's sexual liberation would follow along in the wake of this craving for knowledge. Even television with programs like "sex and the city" and musical artists such as Eminem & Missy Elliott cover the subject of sexuality in an open and uninhibited way that must be finally overwhelming the censors; may they ( the Censors ) rest in peace.







14. What are Chakras or energy levels?


For centuries in China and the East doctors and healers have believed in energy points ( sometimes known as meridians ) in the human body. The use of Acupuncture is based on this principle and now more widely accepted in the West. On a scientific level it is found that large amounts of nerves congregate at these points on their way to and from the brain from all extremes of the body.
Many cultures believe there are major ones up through the center of the body and that these control different energies on a physical, emotional, mental and spiritual plane. Blockages in these areas can cause disease, anxiety, stress, and most disfunctionality.

The approximate positions are from

the Base Chakra -: the Genitalia -: animal, reproductive sexual energy
the Hara Chakra -: below the navel -: balance, dance energy
the Solar Plexus -: above the navel -: emotional energy
the Heart Chakra -: center of chest -: compassion, love energy
the Throat Chakra -: center of neck -: communication, sound energy
the Third eye Chakra -: center of forehead -: telepathic energy
the Crown Chakra -: soft spot rear top of head -: spiritual energy








15. The relation of Chakras to a healthy lifestyle and closer Sexual Union.


Maintaining free flowing energy centers throughout our being will enhance our lives enormously. Clearing blockages and hence negative energy from these Chakras ( by regular meditation, healing, massage or whatever therapy we use ) will reduce the occurrence of disease, stress, confusion, and depression whilst bringing clarity, joy, health and happiness. With all these gifts comes the ability to engage in sexual union with a relaxed natural flowing dance without distractions or agendas. With this strong foundation the union can take its course without any controlling factor that usually leads to disappointment and hence unfulfillment.











16. Clearing chakras of negative energy prior to the start of Tantric Sex.


This is probably the biggest hurdle on the Tantric path, and not only applies to any sexual practise ( and hence routine ) but also to all aspects of our lives. It can be seen as a huge challenge or a small inconvenience: clearing out our closets. But if we approach these skeletons as attaining a release from the prisons that we have created, buttressed up and added extensions to as a reaction to an unpleasant event in our lives, they could become easier to manage, understand and transcend.
' Easier said than done I hear you say! '
MORE to come......3rd Dec 2006



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